Center 4 Growth
Couples Therapy
Are You Concerned About The Future Of Your Relationship?
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Do you feel like your relationship with your partner has been strained lately?
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Have you been struggling with a lack of intimacy? Is the growing distance between you making it hard to communicate?
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Have felt disconnected from your partner for a while now, but you’re not sure how to revitalize the strong bond you once shared?
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Do you feel rundown and defeated, and you wonder if you’ll even have a future together?
A Lack Of Communication Can Hurt Your Connection
You desperately want to feel close to your partner, but when you try to share your feelings, it doesn’t seem like they hear you. Sometimes, it feels like a wall has gone up between you. At other times, you might try to bring your concerns to your partner, only for the conversation to spiral into an argument.
Part of you wants to somehow turn back the clock to happier days with your partner. You can’t figure out where everything went wrong, and you long for the romantic spark that you felt when you first met. Maybe you even look back on things that you’ve said and done and wish you could take them back.
Through couples counseling, you can improve your communication skills, address problems that you previously tried to brush under the rug, and learn how to better meet each other’s needs.
From the outside, it might seem like some couples simply never hit a rough patch. But relationships take work, and every couple has to weather challenges together. Throughout your relationship, you might end up facing financial stressors, family troubles, parenting difficulties, ups and downs in your career paths, or health struggles.
When you’re going through a tough time as a couple, you might suffer in silence rather than trying to work on the problem together. But healing takes a team effort.
Dealing With Conflict Isn’t Easy
Why do so many couples have trouble handling stress and conflict directly? It’s not always easy to take the initiative when it comes to starting difficult emotional discussions. Couples may try to dance around issues for years, allowing resentment to brew.
Sometimes, people have picked up on unhealthy communication patterns from their families, and they bring these habits into romantic relationships. And so, many people do not learn how to cultivate healthy, meaningful relationships when they are young, and our culture discourages us from fostering true intimacy and togetherness.
Often, partners do not consider each other’s needs and desires, so they end up feeling used and isolated even in a relationship. And in some instances, pride and ego simply get in the way of these conversations; it can be hard for people to admit when they’ve made mistakes.
With the guidance of a therapist, you and your partner can learn to have deep, honest conversations in which you both feel seen and heard.
In couples counseling, you’ll be able to delve into problems that you’ve previously ignored, break harmful patterns, cultivate intimacy, and work towards your mutual goals.
Couples Therapy Can Help You Heal Your Connection As A Team
Couples Therapy Can Help You Heal Your Connection As A Team
You might be worried about facing your relationship issues in therapy and what it could mean for your future as a couple. Unpacking your problems together can be challenging, but it also represents an important step forward for your relationship. Authenticity and honesty are the keys to repairing your connection.
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What To Expect In Couples Therapy Sessions
At Center 4 Growth Psychotherapy, your therapist will help you and your partner explore how your perspectives on relationships have been influenced by your familial connections and the people around you. In therapy, you’ll be able to identify how each one’s needs have gone unmet in your relationship and how you can better support each other. We exclusively offer virtual therapy sessions, allowing you and your partner to attend appointments from the comfort of your own home.
In couples counseling, your therapist will never side with one partner over another. You’ll both have the opportunity to share your experiences without facing judgment. During your first session, you can discuss the problems you’ve been dealing with as a couple, why you decided to pursue therapy, and how you hope to transform your relationship for the better.
Your individual histories can significantly impact the way you and your partner relate to each other. Therefore, you’ll have the chance to explore how the relationships you saw modeled within your family units could have negatively affected your connection with your partner. You’ll identify patterns that you’ve fallen into as a couple that don’t serve you. Furthermore, your therapist will help you approach emotional conversations with patience and respect.
Sunita Chamber, Psy.D.
Clinical Director & Founder
Center 4 Growth
Clinical Director & Founder
Center 4 Growth
Center 4 Growth
Treatment Approaches
To Couples Therapy
Treatment Approaches To Couples Therapy
We understand that starting couples therapy is a big decision, and your counselor will help you and your partner work through issues at a pace that suits you. When you and your partner begin counseling, your therapist will design a treatment plan centered around your needs and goals as a couple.
Like many couples, you can benefit from working with a therapist who applies the Gottman Method, which can help you address conflicts in a healthy way. Through this method, you’ll also learn to improve your communication skills and deepen the intimacy and affection in your relationship.
Your counselor might also incorporate psychodynamic therapy into your treatment plan so that you can examine how past trauma and cultural or generational influences may be harming your connection. Additionally, modalities like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) can help you both shift your beliefs about relationships and love, paving the way for positive behavioral changes.
But You May Still Have Questions
About Couples Therapy…
My partner isn’t interested in seeking therapy.
To make progress in couples counseling, both partners have to be genuinely invested in the process. If your partner is not on board with the idea of going to therapy, take some time to explain your reasons for suggesting it and discuss how you think it could help you repair your relationship. Make sure you’re both on the same page before scheduling a session.
What if we don’t have time for therapy?
If you and your partner both have busy schedules, it can be difficult to find the time for therapy sessions. Our practice offers virtual appointments, making it easier to attend therapy regularly. Talk to your partner about how you might coordinate your schedules so that you can invest time together in therapy. Depending on the issues you’d like to address, you may not need extensive sessions—if you’re both dedicated to healing your relationship, you can see improvements within a couple of months.
Can therapy really help us solve our problems?
You might worry that going to therapy means your relationship will inevitably end; but guidance from an objective third party can actually help you form a stronger connection than before. You’ll also learn communication tools and strategies that you can apply outside of sessions to better cope with challenging situations in the future.
However, if you and your partner come to the conclusion that separating would be the best course of action for both of you, your therapist can help navigate this process respectfully.
